Socialnetworking, Popularit, Body Language

Have you ever noticed that some people seem to have that certain "it" about them that
just makes you LIKE THEM, and you don't really know why? Call it beauty, popularity, or
social networking luck - but somehow it helps them to get ahead.

Have you ever been in a situation when you felt that people were turned off by you for some
reason, and you KNEW you had taken a shower that morning, and there seemed to be no
rational explanation?

Well then, this is the article for you.

Social scientists have discovered some alarming evidence based on research, testing,
and survey methods. The hypothesis? Attractive people get preferential treatment.
Apparently, people have known since September 1, 1981that, "The studies show that
people known (or supposed) to be physically attractive are invested by others with a host of
desirable characteristics, such as warmth, poise, sensitivity, kindness, sincerity and the
potential for social, marital and occupational success." (New York Times) As it turns out,
attractive people get paid more, are given better grades, and get more free drinks in
bars than unattractive people.

Feel like your doomed? Well, fear not.

According to other social scientists, beauty ISN'T just "skin deep" as they say. In fact,
people respond more to body language factors and subconscious interpersonal
communication clues than they actually do to your "looks."

Read this article to learn:

the Top Five Hidden Body Language Codes,
what they say about you, and (on the flip-side of the coin),
what they say to them.

#1. Good Posture
WHAT GOOD POSTURE SAYS ABOUT YOU:
Having good posture not only tells people that you are
proud of who you are, but it also says that you're open, honest,
energetic, and awake.

WHAT GOOD POSTURE SAYS TO THEM:
"Pay attention, take this person seriously."

WHY?
Posture is the first visual clue we get about a person. More
than any other cue on the list, posture is a display of our
emotional state and our sense of self-esteem. How you see your
self is the first place others get a clue about how they should see you.

#2. Good Grooming
WHAT GOOD GROOMING SAYS ABOUT YOU:
Good g rooming (which includes both hygeine AND the appearance of your clothes) says
that you have it together, that you care about how people perceieve you, and that you value
interpersonal contact.

WHAT GOOD GROOMING SAYS TO THEM:
"This person is a role model, be like them."

WHY?

It's in the jeans. NO - the GENES. As it turns out, our

subconscious

response to grooming is

inherited from our primate

ancestors, who

observe the dominant ape, or

the leader of the

group, to

have a

smoother, cleaner, and nicer coat

than the

subordinates.

Moreover,

in some species, once

a male rises to the

top of the

pack, he will be

observed to develop new dramatic

hairstyles and

colors which were not

features of his coat before.

As humans, we instantly respond to a person's dress and

cleanliness as an indicator of

social

standing and power

. (I've even

found

a 100% correlation between the times I wear a suit at the

airport and when

I dress in jeans and a t-shirt. When I dress

causally, I get "randomly"

searched.

When I wear a suit, I get waived

through. Social profiling, or

subconsicous subordination?)

#3. Making Eye Contact
WHAT MAKING EYE CONTACT SAYS ABOUT YOU:
You're confident.

WHAT MAKING EYE CONTACT SAYS TO THEM:
"I'm important. I like that."

WHY?
Studies agree that when people agree and like each other, they
naturally make more eye contact than when they don't. Further,
in North American culture, eye contact is viewed as a sign of being
on the same level as the person you are talking to. If you look away
when you are talking to someone, it seems that you don't care. If
you look away when someone is talking to you, its a sign of
disrespect. Most importantly, the eyes are the window to the
soul. When you make eye contact, you engage in a form of
communication with others that is totally unavailable any other way.

#4. Controling Vocal Tone
WHAT CONTROLLING YOUR VOCAL TONE SAYS ABOUT YOU:
Smooth, charismatic, and in control.

WHAT YOUR VOCAL TONE SAYS TO THEM:
"Listen, relax, believe."

WHY?
Just like the eyes, our vocal tone speaks volumes about our emotions, thoughts, and
reactions. Subconsciously, when you disagree, don't like someone, are nervous, or are
lying, your voice tightens up, gets louder, goes to a higher pitch, and betrays your emotion.
On the other hand, low, soothing tones immediately put the listener at ease and make you
seem trustworthy.

#5. Good Mood
WHAT BEING IN A GOOD MOOD SAY ABOUT YOU:
That you're likeable.

WHAT BEING IN A GOOD MOOD SAYS TO THEM:
"Be happy, like this person."

WHY?
Its all about the synapses. When your brain sees emotion displayed by another person, it CANNOT
HELP but to kick in that emotion as well. Its called "empathy" and its a natural animal reaction to
other animals. Hence, when we see real laughter, we laugh. When we watch a scary movie - its not
the bad guy that scares us, but the terrified reactions of the victims. So, the easiest way to make
others happy is to be happy. Literally show them how you want them to feel. The natural reaction
to a person who makes us happy is to like that person. Its a scientific fact.